109: TEEN PAIN - TEEN RAGE

 Growing Sexually Mature - 9

 

He had nowhere to sleep.  He roamed from street to street dozing in ally corners unseen.  His life in the city jungle met with starvation today, a hot meal from a church tomorrow.  As each day passed, he kept murmuring deep inside why he existed at all.  Why would his parents leave him to folks who didn't have a heart for him?  How long did they search for him after he ran away?  Yeah, he remembers how he strutted round that house insulting and cursing screaming for his adopted parents to pay attention.  "Pay attention to what?" he now asks himself, eating an already half-eaten sandwich he found.

Teens experience pain sometimes when they wake up to what’s “real” in their lives.  Caring parents diligently work to create loving homes for their children and a world free of darkness.  Children are to grow up in happy homes with loving families.  Many children do grow up this way and should be grateful for the love their parents--whether biological, step, or adopted--have showered on them.  Other children, however, do not know what love is and struggle to find identity and hope where there is no light to guide them. 

 

Realities of life can be seen either through eyes of hope or through eyes of despair.  The optimistic seer views life with eyes that search for the 'good' in everyone and in everything.  They create their reality by channeling their focus on things positive.  The pessimistic seer views life through shaded lens seeing only what is 'dark' in everyone and in everything.  They are eager to point out what is 'wrong' with the world and complain bitterly about it.

 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice (Ephesians 4:31).

As our children grow, they begin to see 'flaws' or imperfections in the adults who raise them, teach them, mentor them, or whom they meet for a mere moment passing by.  They are critical because they are searching to find who they are by the examples set before them: "I want to be like my . . ." is the mantra ringing in their minds as they construct an image for themselves.  When they can't piece together what or who is a 'perfect' being, doubts seep into their stream of conscious, "Then who am I supposed to be?"

 

"Who is God? and where is He now when I need Him most?" Today's generation know there is a God, but many have put God away as they look for answers through shaded lenses.  Shaded lenses make the eyes comfortable, making them veer away from looking so keenly for what is good or right.  "God is a big mysterious invisible being who can't be reached and who definitely can't understand how I feel.  This leaves me with no choice but to go out and find myself in this dark world."  God is put away in a little box at the corner of young peoples' minds as a judgmental being who will send you to hell if you commit one little act of disobedience.  Many reason He is without mercy or understanding of what it's like to be an adolescent experiencing life today; that God is not relevant now and the Bible, too, what's the use?

Teenagers who have difficulty creating an identity to satisfy the question, "Who am I?" often lash out their frustration in torrents of verbal and physical attacks or in passive inner boiling anger through deafening cold silence and isolation.  Both channels of dealing with "Who am I?" can lead to young people running to peers to get a sense of belonging, of 'loving'.  Girls often take boyfriends.  Boys take girlfriends.  Some teens join dangerous gangs risking their lives in brutal initiation rites that give them membership. Others take to drugs and alcohol, or promiscuous sex with anyone or anything. 

 

Teen pain-teen rage cheapens the way we should value our bodies.  Because God is often moved out of the way, there is a void left to fill a troubled soul.  That void is often filled with fornication--the spirit of lust and lewdness befriend the one open to welcome it.  And once in, acts out in perverse ways to get attention.  Homosexuality is not a person. Licentiousness is not a person.  God is merciful and loves His creation—male and female. Like a father holding His arms open wide, He waits for His creation to return to Him, trusting Him to forgive and to restore them to who they were originally—wonderfully made in His image and likeness.

Let's not point the finger at one particular class or race of people.  Teen pain-teen rage has no class or race.  It affects every teenager.  Why would the young man above find himself on the streets? After all, he came from a very wealthy home.  His adoptive parents gave him everything he could ask for.  What was his cursing and screaming, his ranting and raving all about?

 

As the changes in your body occur, the need to express yourself and be accepted are so important, dear adolescent.  You want to be appreciated for your looks as well as for your opinions.  Well, guess what? Your parents and teachers and mentors and any adult who cares about you want the same thing.  We may not express it as perfectly as you'd like it, but we are all routing for your best outcome.

 

A Gift From God  by Fred Mathews

You do not have to be anyone else, but you.  You are fearfully (extraordinarily outstanding) and wonderfully made, and deep down your soul knows that very well (Psalm 139:14-17).  Your body is a masterpiece divinely crafted by God who wants to live inside it and to steer it in the direction toward His glory, the everlasting light.

Do we point our fingers at parents whose teens go off the narrow way?  Many pastor's homes, especially, are afflicted by the ravenous roaring devil who wants to devour the children of men and women who have given their lives to the service of the Lord God Almighty.  Was he not standing before the woman which was ready to be delivered, for to devour her child as soon as it was born? (Revelation 12:4).  Parents, who are close to God, who know how perfectly relevant He is always pray, walk with them into the church, fellowship and share the scriptures.  Parents who love and trust in God, our Creator, love their children with all their hearts.  They love so much that they can also bring other children into their homes adopting them as their very own. 

 

Then they go out--to school, to market, to media--out of the caring environment created for their well-being.  With their lack of maturity to handle the responsibilities of adulthood, they force themselves to be like adults, to do what adults do.  They want to "figure things out on my own." Some end up on the streets; others in houses of prostitution or other 'strange' houses.  They run away from who they truly are and can't hear that hungry roaring devouring lion.

But God is a Mighty God.  The Lion of Judah is His name. He shall not close His ears to the ones who know Him and call on His name.  If you are reading this blog today, your message is this: Do not give up on your children, parents. Do not give up on yourself, teenager.  Pray! with all your strength.  God is a loving and merciful God.  He cares and when you run to Him, He will turn your tears to joy, exchange your ashes for beauty, and bring His children back home—embraced in His loving arms.  Yes, Jesus loves me; Yes, Jesus loves me; Yes, Jesus loves me, for the Bible tells me so.

 

© 2021 by Patience Osei-Anyamesem. All rights reserved.  Published by The Light In Me Enterprise.  No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other—without the prior written permission of the publisher.  The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews or other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law.

 Unless otherwise stated, all scripture quotations are from The New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc.  Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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108: Masturbating the Precious Seed

 Growing Sexually Mature - 8

 

Spermatozoa sex cell from the male
penetrating the ovum (egg), the female sex cell

There is no word in any human language powerful enough to give adequate imagery to how precious the body of a man and woman is.  Precious means of great value; not to be wasted or treated carelessly.  Precious is who you are in the eyes of God, and what’s inside of you is genuinely precious.

As your reproductive organs grow and become mature enough to serve their functions, keep in mind what our Creator had in mind for them.  Inside the male body, millions of sperm are produced every day.  They hold the most important of all bodily functions—they are the carriers of life.  To add imagery, the spermatozoa is the seed of our being human.

 

Into the seed of man, God placed his life essence—everything you are in body and soul and human spirit.  It’s all magnificently pieced together in the center of the seed of man.  During copulation (sexual intercourse), the male deposits his seed into the egg (or seed) of a female to fertilize it and make it grow into human life.  The “how” will always be a mystery never to be revealed to “modern” scientific technological inquiry because each seed is divinely designed by God’s Spirit and carries its unique life code (or DNA) for each person born of a woman.  No two humans are identical and each of us is marked by a specific, and totally different, hand and foot print.

 

After the sperm fertilizes the ovum, life begins to form!

Spermatozoa, or sperm, is the reproductive cell in males, and is completely viable in producing new human life.  The term is derived from the Greek word “sperma” meaning seed. That is, They which are the children of the flesh, these are not the children of God; but the children of the promise are counted for the seed (Romans 9:8).  In other words, if you are carnal allowing your flesh to control your spirit, then you do not feel the value of your seed, young man and old.

 

Auguste Rodin "The Thinker" Sculpture

Masturbation is the stimulation of the genitals with the hand for sexual pleasure.  For most young males and older ones, too, they try to justify masturbating as a way to relieve physical or emotional tension caused by stress or temptation, and therefore, a preventative measure not to fornicate. Of the one hundred million sperm that are shot out of the male body during ejaculation in the divine setting of marital sexual intercourse, only one is given permission to fertilize the female reproductive cell.  And to penetrate the egg cell of a female is not easy.  That’s probably why that one sperm cell needs all the other 99,999,999 sperm to give “him” the push to make it happen!

But masturbating is not in the divine plan for your lives, males of all ages.  Excessive masturbation can cause fatigue (extreme tiredness), weakness in body function, early ejaculation (loss of natural timing), injury to the penis and other reproductive organs, vision changes, lower back pain, hair loss—these are dealing with the physical body.  What about your soul and spiritual bodies?  In Genesis 38:6-10, we meet Onan, a man described as wicked because of the way he treated his seed by spilling it on the ground.

 

When masturbating, where do you put your ejaculated seeds?  Since they are not being deposited into the right environment, then they are considered wasted, as rubbish is waste, and thrown nowhere special, nowhere precious.  That precious place is into the birth canal of your wife, then into its mate, the female sex cell, which is patiently waiting to be fertilized.  How beautiful is God’s perfect plan for our lives—when male and female come together in godliness to produce godly offspring!

 

Every time you masturbate, you never know which one of those millions of sperm could be your most precious son or daughter, just thrown to the ground and destroyed.  Males hold the Y- chromosome in the sperm, which produces other males.  A female cannot produce a son.  Only the male begets males because it is in his seed, not in her egg.  How valuable is that?  It is so precious.  Your male body was engineered to produce millions of sperm, or seeds, every day.  What is not used for procreation is taken care of by reabsorbing into the body or coming out naturally in nocturnal emissions. 

Sexual pleasure is natural.  But growing sexually mature makes you aware of perfect timing, not selfish timing; and makes you behave responsibly in how you take care of your body as a precious creation, how you submit your mind to whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, and praiseworthy (Philippians 4:8), and how you join your spirit (your desires) to the will of God.

Our Creator is opposite of what is wicked or abominable behavior.  He is pure.  His love is genuine; and He disciplines His children, His creation, when we do wrong, even as our human fathers must do to keep us on the right track.  If you are a male struggling with masturbation, seek help now.  You cannot overcome masturbation unless you want to.  Masturbation is the spirit of lust working in the flesh, but you were born as God’s child, His outstanding creation; and He put His seed into you.  Therefore, your sperm are your prized possession.  So, when you call on your Father to help you stop wasting your seed, He will surely come to the rescue.  Won’t you call?

 

   

© 2021 by Patience Osei-Anyamesem. All rights reserved.  Published by The Light In Me Enterprise.  No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other—without the prior written permission of the publisher.  The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews or other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law.

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